Sometimes all you need is a vigorous stirring of your internal pot to make major progress.
An intensive can be a catalyst for lasting change.
Innerlings. What are they anyway?
Innerlings are aspects of our internal world who need some attention. This might include experiences like:
- The feeling that you’re a fraud and everyone is going to find out, commonly known as Impostor Syndrome
- Something in you that doubts that you are loveable or valuable as a human
- A sense of arrogance that prohibits learning, introspection, or connection
- A tender part of you that feels overwhelmed by compassion
- Nagging memories that still bring the zing
And so on.
While, of course, all of these experiences are a part of our wholeness as complex human beings, I’ve found in my own work and in working with hundreds of clients over the years that treating Innerlings as their own little yammering beings is the first step to putting aces in their places – that is, sorting the voices of wisdom from the misguided inner critics. Only then can we play our hand to its fullest.
Should we talk?
Talk is cheap, and this time it’s free! We know a lot of people offer free consultations that are just long, painful sales presentations. That’s not what this is. Let’s just talk and test the fit, no strings attached.
Mise en place…
In professional kitchens, there’s a concept known by its French name, mise en place. It means, “everything in its place.” Those of us primed by primetime tv cooking shows tend to think of the action of mise en place as the boring part of cooking: Chopping three onions, two cloves of garlic, one bell pepper. Peeling and cubing a carrot. Measuring the needed spices into ramekins.
And yet, a kitchen with poor mise en place practices hobbles the whole restaurant. A restaurant can succeed, no doubt, but every part of the operation will have to work harder to get to there.
Sometimes, my clients and I do our mise en place along the way. We dive into coaching – the part we think of as fun, like throwing the chopped onions into the sizzling-hot pan – and when we run into an Innerling, we stop in our tracks, name that aspect, spend a little time getting to know it, and then we take all of that back to the stove with us.
And it works. Every time. But not as well as when the mise en place happens at the beginning, laying the foundation for all the work to come.
In the one-day Innerling Intensive, we do just that.
Instead of julienned vegetables and condensed soup bases, you’ll end the intensive with:
- The names of and foundational info about your most overt crew of Innerlings. You’ll even have pictures of them.
- A process to use when you notice more Innerlings – the quieter, shyer ones – making themselves known.
- Tools to use when your Innerlings need your attention, including when the ornery ones go into overdrive.
- Practical experience of your ability to not only survive but grow through the discomfort, fear, and anxiety that are sometimes a part of moving toward your bigger self and badder life.
- A workbook of your very own wisdom captured throughout the day to refer back to on the rough days.
While this work can be challenging and sometimes even daunting, it will also be fun and liberating and even ridiculous in the best possible way. No doubt, there is something deeply satisfying about the coaching sessions themselves, just as there is something deeply satisfying about the sizzle of mushrooms hitting hot oil in a pan and yet in commercial kitchens, it’s during mise en place prep that there’s time for smack talking and singing along to cranked-up music. In the work of moving toward your biggest life and baddest self, it’s when you get to play with markers and imaginary friends and discover, along the way, all of the courage and wisdom already tucked away inside you.
You are creative, resourceful and whole.
When you scale the great learning curves, you will discover that you are the guru you were seeking on the mountain top and that you’re in the company of seekers, learners, and driven folks from throughout human history.
We can all benefit from the perspective and collaboration of a person who has tackled similar learning curves, and accompanied hundreds of others doing the same.
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Known equally for her laughter and her cogent questions, SB is the business coach who takes a holistic view and the empowerment coach who brings the work down to earth. While her psychology degree from UNC-Greensboro and coach training from the Coach Training Alliance shaped her understanding of human behavior, her innate abilities to create cohesive pictures out of seemingly disparate parts and see people from the intersection of what is and what could be are what makes coaching with SB a particularly unique experience. From the brick ranch on a creek in Southwest Virginia that she shares with her partner, Theresa, and their dog, Kiera, SB collaborates with those seeking their bigger selves and badder lives across the country and around the world.
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